Portland Polyfidelity (a kind of poly / polyamory)

For people who identify as polyfidelity and are in Portland Oregon. This group was for discussions and connections and shared goals. To inspire polyfidelitous families, groups, relationships, tribes, individuals, communities. A community-of-communities.

There was a Portland Polyfidelity Meetup that got to 230+ members and was where events were posted. That group lasted for over a year. Now the recommended meetup with the most overlap of polyfi members is Portland Polyamory.

Other keywords: poly, polyamory, intentional community, family

Definition of polyfi / polyexclusivity / polyfaithful

“Polyfidelity (also sometimes called polyexclusivity) is a form of polyamory where all members are considered equal partners and agree to be sexually active only [or mostly] with other members of the group. …

Polyfaithful relationships are, like monogamous relationships, closed in the sense that partners agree not to be sexual outside the current members of the group. The difference is that more than two people are included in the closed group. …

One might think of polyfidelity as being… like monogamy with more than two people.”


Why Portland Polyfidelity

Some quotes members said at the last meetup:

  • “Sometimes it’s amazing, if you show your true self, people show up.”
  • “There are a lot of polyamory groups. But this is the first time I’ve been out and really been comfortable. People here don’t have an agenda.”
  • “This isn’t about what a night could be but about what a life could be.”
  • “You just have to put it out there in the universe and you will find it.”
  • “‘This group doesn’t have any rules?’ ‘Just consent.'”

For members, compared to polyamory more generally, polyfidelity is about some or all of these:

  • for me it’s not about choosing pros and cons; it’s who I am
  • long-term, forevers
  • non-hierarchical/equal-ish, not centered on one or two people
  • having compersion and friendships¬†with partners and metas
  • one relationship with multiple people
  • living together